Minnie the Matchmaker...

OK.. it's happened again! I'm beginning to think I was put on this earth to bring couples together... What is it that makes this happen? I don't even feel like I meet as many guys as I used yet that doesn't seem to stop it. What I'm talking about is friends dating friend's exes... Isn't this supposed to be taboo? I thought there was some general rule about this somewhere that this is considered kind of disrespectful or something. Apparently not as it keeps happening to me...

I've got good social skills, I'm not afraid to approach someone if the the timing's right. I can make things happen so to speak if the feelings are mutual. I've been very blessed to have met all the people I have met, as most people live their lives staying only in a one or two social circles and that's all they do. For me ever since coming out, having alot of friends has never been an issue, nor has dating for that matter. I've been able to make it work no matter where I am, no matter where I go. Going back to the point of this post, it's seems only in the last few years where I'm seeing this trend of friends of mine dating guys that I've introduced them to because I JUST DATED THEM! Talk about fishing from the same pond.... For the record, I am not guilty of this behaviour, not once have I dated a friend's ex just after they finished dating them.

There is a silver lining to all this venting, as much as things didn't work out between me and all those exes, I can at least say I'm good at what I do. Everyone ''I've'' put together is still together and that's something that doesn't happen everyday. It started with Kevin and Michael (which has been going strong since 2004), then Stephen and Andy (also since 2004, which was also the year I decided I needed new friends, clearly I'm sure you understand why). In 2005 it was Joe and John which is probably some of my best work ever and then recently just this summer it was Bill and Sean.

I've never found anything for myself that has lasted nearly as long as most of these, I often think I'll be single for life which is odd because I've got so much to give. We all have our excuses as to why we don't have boyfriends, girlfriends, whatever but I think it's the strongest individuals who end up holding out. I'd like to think that when I'm ready, he will come. I'm not sure when ''ready'' will be, but I know that in the meantime I'm not going to be moping around. I'll continue to put myself out there, smile when I'm supposed to and have fun with my friends. Although I must confess that 2007 has been my worst dating year EVER! It's funny how we put some much validation of ourselves in other people, so much so that often we forget how much we like being who were are.

We all hit lows, there are countless times that I've gone out with the friends and my ''fun'' factor is determined by how much attention I got instead of how many funny moments there were. Secretly inside there is a part of me that will always wonder why it's not happening to me, like when you see someone out (desirable or not) with their boyfriend or whatever and you say to yourself ''how could that person find someone and I can't?'' It's a shallow thought I know, but it's true. Anyway until I figure it all out I guess I'll continue my role as the the little matchmaker and hope that someday someone will return the favor...